3 ways to bring more generosity to your personal and business relationships

Generosity. A word that evokes warm and fuzzy feelings. Like a pot of delicious gumbo, generosity goes a long way to fill aches in hearts and bellies. Generosity is a quality we could all use more of, myself included. Giving and receiving generously comes with a side of happiness and contentment. That’s some serious lagniappe.

Ready to get cooking? Here are 3 simple strategies to start creating more generosity in our relationships.

  1. A wise man once said what you appreciate appreciates. If you want more and want to give more, look at what’s in front of you and appreciate what you have. Starting your day with affirmations of appreciation like Stuart Smalley is one way to surely increase your gratitude. Gratitude goes great with generosity. Try to use “I appreciate…” in your communications with others. Keeping a journal to jot down what you appreciate in your life and what you notice others appreciating will help create more connections.
  2. Connect more in your daily interactions and conversations by focusing on the person you are speaking with. Ever felt anxious about meeting new people or drawn a blank when trying to have a conversation? Using the FROG 🐸 acronym can help you get to know anyone better and build a relationship.
  • F = Family. Ask about the other person’s family and where they are from.
  • R = Recreation. Ask the other person about hobbies and what they like to do and where they like to vacation.
  • O = Organizations. Ask what the other person does for work and about any organizations they belong to.
  • G = Goals. Ask the other person about their aspirations and life goals. It’s always fun to talk about our dreams. 3. Write more handwritten notes. If you don’t write handwritten notes, start. In the age of texting, email and social media handwritten snail mail stands out. Use personal, non branded stationary to write these notes. Be personal and optimistic when you write a note. Avoid using “I and Me” when you communicate. Try to be relational and focus on the person you are writing to. Human beings love to hear positive things about themselves. Writing handwritten notes that are positive and effective in expressing appreciation will set you up to be a great connector.

Building a life and business around generosity creates beneficial relationships for everyone by sharing and supporting each other. Just like the key to a perfect pot of gumbo is having enough hands to stir the roux continuously and add ingredients at just the right time. My friend was generous enough to share her family’s gumbo recipe and I’m honored to share it with you. If all this reading is making you hungry these ingredients will surely make a generous pot gumbo to share.

Louisiana Seafood Gumbo

PREP TIME: 1 Hour

SERVES: 12

COMMENT:

The premier soup of Cajun country, seafood gumbo, is known worldwide as the dish to seek out when visiting South Louisiana. There are as many recipes for this soup as there are people who cook it. This, however, is a favorite.

INGREDIENTS:

1 pound (35-count) shrimp, peeled and de-veined

1 pound jumbo lump crabmeat

2 dozen shucked oysters, reserve liquid

3 quarts shellfish stock

1 cup vegetable oil

1 cup flour

2 cups chopped onions

1 cup chopped celery

1 cup chopped bell pepper

1/4 cup diced garlic

1/2 pound sliced andouille sausage

1 pound claw crabmeat

2 cups sliced green onions

1/2 cup chopped parsley

salt and cayenne pepper

Louisiana Gold Pepper Sauce

METHOD:

In a 7-quart cast iron dutch oven, heat oil over medium-high heat. Sprinkle in flour and, using a wire whisk, stir constantly until brown roux is achieved. Do not allow roux to scorch. Should black specks appear in roux, discard and begin again. Once roux is golden brown, add onions, celery, bell pepper and garlic. Sauté approximately 3-5 minutes or until vegetables are wilted. Add andouille, blend well into vegetable mixture and sauté an additional 2-3 minutes. Add claw crabmeat and stir into roux. This will begin to add seafood flavor to the mixture. Slowly add hot shellfish stock, one ladle at a time, stirring constantly until all is incorporated. Bring to a low boil, reduce to simmer and cook approximately 30 minutes. Add additional stock if necessary to retain volume. Add green onions and parsley. Season to taste using salt, pepper and Louisiana Gold. Fold shrimp, lump crabmeat, oysters and reserved oyster liquid into soup. Return to a low boil and cook approximately 5 minutes. Adjust seasonings and serve over cooked rice.

Cheers to cooking up more gratitude and generosity. Special thanks to Sarahbeth, Mark and Lauren.

Xoxo,

Sarah

P.S. The inspiration for this post came from interviews with former colleagues who shared generously about their personal and professional journeys. A recommended “must read” book was the primary source for this blog post. Many thanks to Michael Maher for 7L: The Seven Levels of Communication. You can follow this link to purchase a copy:

https://www.amazon.com/7L-Levels-Communication-Relationships-Referrals-ebook/dp/B00MLDGKLW/ref=nodl_


3 truths about marketing your business on social media

Social media. Love it or love to hate it, social media is a free way for entrepreneurs to build business. Like a relationship, navigating social media can be complicated and confusing at times. Since February is the month of love, I’m sharing a few tried and true tips to make your business relationship with social media more lovable.

Full disclosure: I am no social media expert. I made a new friend on Facebook named Joel. Please don’t confuse Joel with Tom, the first friend you made after signing up for MySpace. Joel is a real life Awesome Social Media Guru who has a background in branding and social media strategy. I’m grateful for all the tips he’s shared with me and he suggested that I share them with you. So grab some Kool Aid and get comfortable with your favorite mobile device while I come at you like Kenny Powers with some truths about social media marketing.

  1. Your friends on social media are your friends because of you. Not your business (unless you are Joel and you’ve made a bunch of new friends by sharing your business effectively). So when you make posts about your business on your personal social media be sure to include YOURSELF. If you are a realtor that might mean photos of you in front of properties you are selling or funny anecdotes about what happened while showing houses to buyers. If you are selling face products or lip gloss take a picture of yourself using the product. While it’s tempting and might feel safe to only share ready made marketing materials from your company or links about your business you run the risk of spamming your friends and audience. Which brings us to truth number..
  2. No one likes SPAM. Try to be original with your content and let your personality and passion shine through. People do business with people they know, like, and trust. Don’t worry too much about wether anyone will like what you post or how you look as long as you are front and center in your posts. People want to see your passion and vulnerability. Showcase your sense of humor in posts about your insurance business. Give a behind the scenes look at your restaurant. Be that cool mortgage broker who not only shows up for closing but buys the champagne at a bar afterwards and posts about it. I’m at the beginning of this social media journey and I’m making plenty of mistakes. My apologies to anyone I’ve spammed. It’s easy to get excited about a company offering or rate drop and just hide behind a canned image or statistic. How many skincare posts about paste did you see today? Which ones actually caught your interest? Which brings me to truth number…
  3. Social media is a party! Life and businesses have their ups and downs but be positive in your posts. And show up for the party! Be active and SOCIAL before and after you post. Don’t post and run. With new algorithm changes the first 15 minutes after you post are critical for likes to appear at the top of feeds. Take advantage of new features offered by the platform you’re using to boost your post for FREE. On Facebook this means going live, using messenger and and options like Gifs and Stickers. Helpful hint for anyone who isn’t seeing posts from the friends they want to see in their feed…Send them a messenger message and have a conversation and you will see them pop up to the top of your Facebook feed because Facebook thinks you are FRIENDS. Instagram is all about telling stories through pictures and using hashtags. It’s a great way to build a following with people you’ve never met by showcasing your style.

Hope these tips are helpful and let me know how you’re using social media as an entrepreneur to boost your business!

Xoxo,

Sarah

P.s. I still have so much to learn about using social media to promote business. I wish I’d started using it years ago for real estate. I’ve seen many friends and coworkers use social media to launch their businesses to the next level and I’ll be reaching out to ask them to share their secrets for future posts. If you are an entrepreneur who is interested in keeping up with social media changes and networking with other entrepreneurs (no spamming allowed) let me know. Cheers to successful selling!


5 Hot Mom Suits Under $35

Ready to say goodbye to winter? Me too. Spring break dreaming and I’ve been scoping out some super hot mom suits so you don’t have to. Grab your favorite broad spectrum SPF and some shades. It’s time to start shopping.

There’s nothing worse than going in to an actual store to shop for bathing suits. The lighting is terrible in those dressing rooms and selections are picked over. Thank god for internet shopping. You can browse suits on your phone and try them on in the comfort of your own home.

I love bathing suits. If you’re wearing a bathing suit, you’re probably doing something fun. You might be going to one of my favorite places. The lake, the pool, the beach. And if you’re wearing one of these one piece bathing suits I’m crushing on right now you’ll be fashionable and comfortable. Move over mom suits, hot suits are officially in season.

Pinterest and Polyvore are great resources for suit shopping online. You can find direct links to purchase with most images, like this stunning blue pin up number I found on Polyvore for $35.

https://www.herroom.com/empreinte-tw-sft-soft-padded-cup-plunge-control-one-piece-swimsuit.shtml#

This black suit I found on Pinterest has detail from top to bottom. $24.74

https://pin.it/cxhql5wywqylg6

Here are 3 suits I’m in love with right now from 3 of the most popular retailers:

I love this caged style so much I’m featuring 2 suits with it. Slimming in the front, good coverage across your bum and enough skin to keep things interesting. This Social Angel suit is $32.99 at Target. https://www.target.com/p/women-s-shibori-strappy-side-one-piece-swimsuit-social-angel/-/A-53273381#lnk=sametab&preselect=51793127

Anyone else addicted to Amazon Prime? This timeless black suit with strappy style was $15.99 delivered to my door. Substantial material that you can throw some shorts over and be comfortable in out of the water.

Belloo Womens Straps Cross Back One Piece Swimsuit, Black, M https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06XWVYDSR/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_0D0CAbHB9Z0TA

I was grocery shopping at Walmart when this steal of a suit caught my eye. For $19.96 I had to toss it in my cart. I love the way it fits so much I went back and bought a second one. http://www.walmart.com/ip/No-Boundaries-Juniors-Cut-Out-Monokini-One-Piece-Swimsuit/540740645

I’m ready for more sunny days like this one. Get your shop on and let me know what you find to get suited up for spring.

Xoxo,

Sarah

P.s. Here is the store link from the Pinterest photo of the attention grabbing white hot suit https://pin.it/i455cnjjm7htph


Sunday should start with good gravy

Nothing says Sunday morning like a yummy plate of biscuits and gravy. Flaky biscuits and spicy gravy will soothe your soul and set you up for a lazy day.

Growing up it was always a competition between my mom and dad to see who could make the best gravy. My family likes it on the thin side with plenty of spicy heat and served with a runny fried egg. Sawmill style.
Pick up some sage sausage and flaky refrigerated biscuits to keep on hand. When the lazy Sunday mood strikes it’ll be easy to whip up a pan of this simply delicious gravy.
Good Gravy Ingredients:

  • 1 pound Sage sausage
  • 2 tablespoons of butter
  • Half teaspoon ground sage
  • Half teaspoon white pepper
  • Half teaspoon crushed red pepper flakes
  • Teaspoon of salt
  • Teaspoon black pepper
  • 1/4 cup flour
  • 3 cups of milk

Brown sausage in a pan over medium heat. Add sage and crushed red pepper while browning. Leave grease in the pan and add butter. Continue to stir until butter has melted. Add flour and remaining spices. Cook an additional 3-4 minutes while stirring. Add one cup of milk, allow to thicken and repeat with cup 2 and cup 3. Simmer on low about 10 minutes and enjoy over your favorite biscuits.

Leave me a comment and let me know how you like your gravy.

Best,

Sarah

Xoxo


5 tips to make your holidays brighter

The holidays are here and it’s time to make the most of this splendid season. Here are 5 tips to reduce holiday stress and increase joy:

  1. Prioritize what means most to you during the holidays. Is it getting your home decked out with greenery, twinkling lights and decor? Is it celebrating with family, friends or co-workers? Do you get satisfaction from giving the perfect gift and getting your shopping done and wrapping taken care of early? Making your favorite recipes and holiday snacks? Or does giving back to your community and causes that you care about bring you the most joy? Decide now to prioritize whatever matters most to you, even if it’s getting cozy on the couch for a streaming marathon of your favorite holiday movies.
  2. Set healthy boundaries for the holidays and yourself by asking for what you want or need. Say no without guilt. We can not control others but we can choose how we feel. Say yes because you want to. Let go of trying to control what other people eat, wear, or do during the holidays. Even your kids.
  3. Get out and do something festive! One of my favorite holiday events on the Coast is the Gulfport Harbor Lights Festival. I love driving the beach highway when the lights are lit up. One of our new traditions is to wait for a colder day to bundle up and ride the Ferris wheel and take in all the decorated boats in the harbor. This year I’m making it a priority to check out the gingerbread house decorating workshop at our local children’s museum, Lynn Meadows Discovery Center. There will probably be more icing and candies in mouths than on houses given the age of my kids but I’m sure it will be a holiday event they’ll enjoy. Check out social media and your local mayor’s office page for free and inexpensive festivities to take part of in your town.
  4. Take time for yourself. It sounds cliche but the holidays can leave you scrambling to meet everyone’s needs but your own. Turn up your favorite tunes, light some candles and take a warm bath with a hot chocolate (or a hot toddy). Clear your calendar and get cozy so you can have a streaming fest in front of the fire and eat too many of those delicious Christmas Crack Pretzels you’ll want to make after I share the recipe in my next post. Treat yourself to something you’ve been wanting while sales are on. Whatever it is you like to do on your Me Time, make it happen over the holidays so you don’t lose yourself and your mind in the hustle and bustle of the season.
  5. Take a cue from the Kindness Elves and find a way to spread holiday cheer to others in need. Nothing makes a holiday brighter or makes you feel better than doing something that helps someone else. Good deeds can be as big as setting up a fundraising event or providing meals and as small as shoveling snow or wrapping gifts for a neighbor. All are meaningful. The holidays can be a hard time for many. And if you’re hurting during the holidays one of the best ways to feel better is to give back. A cup of coffee, a pair of gloves, toys for tots. So many great ways to pay it forward this season. I’d love to hear what you like to do or more ideas to spread joy in the comments on this post!

Thanks for taking the time to read and share my post. I hope you have a wonderful holiday season!

Best,

Sarah


Hey Y’all

Welcome to One Coast Living! Please allow me to introduce myself. I’m Sarah aka One Coast Mama.

I’ve worn many hats over the past 20 years and now I’m trying my hand at blogging. I’ve been student of interior design, worked as a fitness instructor, massage therapist, bartender, realtor, house flipper and skincare consultant. I’m a wife and mom to rambunctious little boys and adopted fur babies. It’s a lot to take in, I know.   I love to search for new ideas and tips so I started this blog to share what I’ve found and experienced.

I’m writing about:

  • starting over in a new place
  • designing a dream home
  • yummy food
  • products
  • wellness
  • that experience we call life
  • raising pets and kids
  • travel and events
  • Buying/Selling

and so much more…

I love to connect with people who like to laugh, create, dress up and experience life while sharing different perspectives.

Thank you for joining me on this blogging adventure.

Best,

Sarah

Xoxo

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